We tell people that their club deserves their best. We tell people that their marriage and their families deserve their best. We say that their health deserves their best. We think their passions and their hobbies deserve their best.
The important distinction in the club industry is that a lot of people think their club deserves their all!
We believe that your club deserves your best, not your all.
We have met managers who would argue that giving your all is the best you can do for your club. There are others who believe their people should give their all, as if sucking every moment they can out of someone is a measure of success.
We often get calls to coach people right after they have lost their job. They are shocked they have lost their job when they gave their all to their club. We are with them in this moment of frustration, anger, grief, confusion, but we assure them that we will soon begin the process to help them give their best to the next opportunity, rather than their all.
It is often at this moment that a metaphorical light bulb lights up and they realize what they have done.
Your all gets in the way of your best!
The more extreme examples of this are when someone gets sick or dies, or when their marriage ends in divorce, or when important relationships in their lives are lost or diminished, or when they arrive each day at a job that they dread going to.
The more subtle examples are letting your body diminish from lack of attention, a loss of energy and enthusiasm, less harmony at home that makes it easier to stay at work, a disconnection with friends ,the concept of fun or not being as passionate a leader as you once were.
Giving your all hurts your club and it hurts you!
Giving your all diminishes your cognitive skills, your creativity, your patience, your energy, your productivity and your leadership abilities. Giving your all impacts your health, your relationships and perhaps most importantly your relationship with you. It can end up with you forgetting what your best is or even losing sight of the fact that being your best should be your goal.
What is your best?
This is a great and worthy question. It is one that we can help you to answer for you. We can tell you that your best changes from day to day and your best today may be different from your best 6 months from now. Defining and working toward your best could be your best defense against falling into the trap of giving your all.
What does your best look like?
When you are at your best you are operating in a way that almost looks effortless. You are doing what you are meant to do and you are doing it at your highest level. You are focused on the important and less on the urgent. You are focused and passionate. People can feel your energy and your authenticity. Your thinking is clear and your creativity is high. You inspire and you make an impact. You get more done in less time and you are conscious of the time suckers that you once let distract you. You are an example for the people you lead when it comes to health, the passions you have for the things that give you joy outside of work and happiness you experience. You experience Extraordinary experiences and you experience peace and quiet. You are happy to be in your own skin!
You are getting paid for results, not time!
The old belief that we exchange time for money may be at the core of this problem. There is a good chance that the first job you ever had was one where you were paid by the hour. Maybe on some level you are stuck in that thinking. Perhaps there is a connection in you between the amount you get paid and how many hours you should work. That is old thinking. You now get paid for the results you get not the hours you put in. The focus should be on how effective you are versus how much endurance you have.
In some ways you all can be easier than your best!
It might be easier to throw more time at your job than it is to get clarity about how to give your best and make it happen. If it is what you know, then you may believe there is no other way.
Giving your all is not sustainable
Giving your all is not an inspiring example
Giving your all gets in the way of your brilliance
Giving your all may indicate that you don’t know how to give your best
Giving your all has many costs
When we interviewed David Chag from The Country Club at Brookline for our Extraordinary Leader Program, he told our audience that at the beginning of each month he puts his personal and family commitments in his calendar first. He said there was a time when he found that all his time could be taken and it left little or no time for parts of his life that are very important.
You can make it a habit to give your all to your work at the expense of family, health and your life and you can still do your job. You just need to be very aware that you will just not be giving them your best.
If you are interested in getting clear on how to deliver your best, call us toll free at (866) 822-3481 for the complimentary coaching session that is a privilege of membership in CMAA.